1) Look to where you fear judgmentOften times what we would love to do is hiding in plain sight. But we care so much that we hide it from ourselves to avoid trying and failing. Instead, we purposely choose things we don’t care about. We protect ourselves. If you’d rather feel alive than protected, ask yourself, “What pastime are you afraid to share with the world? Where do you try to be perfect before anyone can see?” If you’re terrified people might not like it, that’s a good sign. It means you care.
2) Ask yourself: “Where do I have a backlog of unpublished work?”When I published my first piece on the Internet I had a backlog of 100’s of half written pieces. I still do. Dead giveaway. Where do you have a horde of half-finished, unshared projects? Have you learned a bunch of songs halfway through, tinkered with a bunch of machines, sketched a dozen paintings? If you are nodding, I have one assignment for you. Finish one. Pick one that scares you. Share it on Facebook. Do that, and I’ll bet you find your passion.
3) What do you see yourself doing one day, when you have it all figured out?I fantasized about one day being a writer. I’d see myself in this earth-toned room typing away. Then I’d imagine myself at a book signing. People were thanking me for my books, telling me how they changed their lives. I was 100% sure this was inevitable. Except I hadn’t published a damn thing. Where do you see yourself once you feel secure enough to focus on what you really love? Move in that direction right now. The truth is, you WILL NOT suddenly start doing that thing when you’re finances are better or life is more stable. What’s stopping you is not the timing. What’s stopping you is fear. You start today or chances are, you’ll never do it.
4) Do what you think about in the showerYour shower is your laboratory. It is the place your mind is most free. Where does it go? I talk to myself in the shower. I talk through conversations I should have had. I imagine stories I will experience. Sometimes I imagine I’m Jon Snow, Billy Pilgrim, or Yossarian and play out how I’d handle things in their positions. I shape my life into narrative. Discover where your mind goes in the shower. It holds the clue to the activities that offer you the greatest freedom and creativity. (FYI: I wrote this post in the bathroom. Then I came back and typed it out.)
5) Forget what you’re good atIn the age of 80/20 analysis spurred by Tim Ferriss, the popular advice is to focus on your strengths. If you’re good at it, you’ll like it. I’m going to take the contrarian stance. Forget what you’re good at. What you’re good at is often an accident. You didn’t choose that thing. Your parents, your teachers, your peer group encouraged you to do it for their own motives. You kept on that road for their approval. Get back to what you love. Even if you’re terrible at it today. What distinguishes world-class talent is not initial skill. It’s how much work you put in. Better to be motivated by the joy of an activity than the knowledge that it comes easy to you.
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