I just got back from lunch with my brother.
We haven’t spoken for a while, so we played a lot of catch up. “How’s so-and-so doing?” we asked about a dozen times.
He told me the story of one of those so-and-so’s…
A friend of his who wanted to take his girlfriend out for her birthday. So he set up a nice trip to ski in California.
My brother was under the impression it was an amazing trip. All the Snapchat’s were full of smiles on the slopes and glasses of red wine at fancy restaurants.
When his friend got back, my brother asked about the trip.
His friend replied, “It was so hard man…”
“She nearly made me cry. She couldn’t believe I took her away from home on her birthday. She said it was the worst birthday she ever had.”
The friend kept talking and telling how they fight all the time, despite what social media would lead you to believe. My brother asked if they’d break up. And that’s when he got the real kicker:
“Actually we’re planning on moving in together next month.”
When I hear stories like this, one word rings in my head. One word that I believe describes the number one reason for anguish in modern America.
And I don’t just mean addiction to drugs or alcohol, which is how we tend to think of addiction…
I mean the girl so addicted to social validation that she fakes a happier lifestyle than she lives…
I mean the friend so addicted to his relationship that he would rather move in with someone who treats him badly than be alone…
Both of them addicted to a compulsive behavior that THEY KNOW makes them unhappy. Yet they don’t stop.
Can you think of anything in your own life that follows that pattern? Here’s a few examples:
- Addiction to status keeping you in a job that you hate
- Addiction to outrage keeping you watching the news and complaining about it, while taking no action to actually change things
- Addiction to a relationship keeping you with someone that you know isn’t right for you
- Addiction to social media keeping you in a constant state of FOMO
I am 100% going to be creating more on the topic of addiction because I think breaking the cycle has the power to make a lot more people a lot happier. In the meantime though, I’m curious:
Can you spot any addictive behaviors in your own life?
Whether it’s obvious, like drugs and alcohol, or less obvious, like to social status, I’d be curious to hear what you might be struggling with.
I won’t share anybody’s name, but the more examples that I can get from your experience and my own, the more comprehensive the solution can be.
So if you’re game to share, please share in the comments or send me an email (Charlie @ CharismaOnCommand.com) and let me know.
More to come on this soon