I just got back from lunch with my brother.
We haven’t spoken for a while, so we played a lot of catch up. “How’s so-and-so doing?” we asked about a dozen times.
He told me the story of one of those so-and-so’s…
A friend of his who wanted to take his girlfriend out for her birthday. So he set up a nice trip to ski in California.
My brother was under the impression it was an amazing trip. All the Snapchat’s were full of smiles on the slopes and glasses of red wine at fancy restaurants.
When his friend got back, my brother asked about the trip.
You can judge the value of a personal development book based on the concrete changes it produces in your life. Do you walk away happier or more productive? Do you walk away with a set of skills you didn’t have coming in?
By that metric, these are the best personal development books I have ever read. If I taught a class called “Living: A Guide To Do It Right,” this list would constitute the best syllabus I could compile.
I’ll be adding to this list. Not just the new revelations, but the old ones whose lessons have become so ingrained in my mind that I forgot to mention them. For now, here are the 12 best personal development books (up until now).
We used to have these “All Hands” meetings at work.
During the meeting, the senior partners would take turns presenting about how business was going. What new projects they were selling, new work in the pipeline…
Not necessarily a showcase of oral presentation skills or public speaking prowess.
But I noticed something interesting in those meetings. Given the same exact topic and the same exact audience, one partner could make you perk up for those 5 minutes. Another would lull you to sleep.
Are you an honest person?
Seriously, ask yourself: are you honest? Wait til you have your answer before reading on.
Do you have it? Cool.
Now ask yourself: Do you lie sometimes?
I’m willing to bet that you’d say you’re an honest person. I’m also willing to bet that you lie sometimes. So you’re honest…except when you’re not.
Now for the real question: can someone who lies sometimes qualify as an honest person?
Note: This is part of a larger series on how to be more confident. Part 1 is here.
Today, I want to talk about the three distinct types of confidence and how to build confidence in each area. Whether that’s at work, with your friends, in romantic life, amongst superiors, it doesn’t matter. If you want to know how to be more confident, you need to identify the area you in which are weakest and get to work.
So let’s start with the most common type…
Note: This is part of a larger series on how to gain confidence. Part 2 is here.
Confidence matters. More than you can even imagine. Hewlett Packard discovered that years ago.
I’ve been reading the Night Angel trilogy. It’s okay. A real page-turner, but I don’t find myself marveling at it like I did with Game of Thrones. (After Game of Thrones everything else pales, and this post explains why…)
The main character is introduced on page 1. He is normal. But we discover that he is indeed NOT NORMAL. He is marked for greatness. He is special.
Everyone wants to be happier. But no one thinks to ask how to be happier. We assume we know what we need to be doing.
After all we’ve seen the movies. We watch the Academy Awards. We’ve see the smiling faces of our almost certainly more fulfilled friends on Facebook.
But it’s all a trick. All the things we’ve been conditioned to think will finally teach us how to be happier are total bullshit. Take, for example . . .
You’re talking, conversation is flowing nicely, and you feel like you’re really starting to form a connection with this person…
But what happens when after 10 minutes, that dreaded moment rears it’s head?
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