We live in a crowdsourced reality. The whole world is one big damn wiki-cult. Everyone is simultaneously making, following, and enforcing arbitrary rules.
Think of it this way: It’s like we’re all taking this big test called “Life.” And “Life” is full of questions like “When is it okay to lie?” and “Is it wrong to eat meat?” and “Is it okay to walk up to a pretty girl on the Subway and say ‘Hi’”
These big questions determine EVERYTHING. Your answers are what make you, you.
So you think people would really reach deep when considering their answers to all the questions posed by “Life.” You don’t want to fuck up a test of that magnitude.
Except people don’t reach deep. They hardly reach inside at all.
Instead, everybody cheats off one another. No one is willing to make a decision.
People don’t know how they feel about anything. They are always looking for cues. Always looking for a social signal to let them know when to laugh, when to cry, when to scream indignantly. They plagiarize the communal zeitgeist for answers to questions on love, ethics, the meaning of a life well-lived.
Your job is to be the one kid writing his own answers. Your job is to be the valuemaker. Your job is to make a decision.
Stop following the rules. Make better rules, instead
Decide how you feel. Decide what matters and what’s bullshit. Decide what is okay and not okay, where the lines are. Then live it. Expect other people to follow suit and they will.
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